This is my response to The Storymen podcast episode discussing Modesty, featuring Emily Maynard. Please listen to the episode for context as well as enjoyment.
Near the end of the podcast Emily made a statement that stuck out to me,”[The Current Modesty Thought] asks women to be responsible for the biological stimulation of every single individual man they may encounter in any situation.”
Yet the thing is, they aren’t. Women are not responsible for men in this way. I confess that it is easier to point the blame finger from the safety of the church walls at women in the media, in culture, or in the world. But it still all comes down to the man. It is a personal problem not a global one, meaning, it is to be dealt case by case, person by person, man by man. Yes, the world helps or hinders the situations but it is ultimately the man’s responsibility.
Currently, we are binge oriented, consuming any sexual image. As we take control of our consumption we take control of our bodies. Contrary to the “earth-suit” school of thought, we are bodies & we are responsible for what happens to them. Our bodies are not only a thing to control but they are also a temple in which we worship with. (1Cor 6:19) We cognitively choose what we worship, let that be sex, food, God, etc. Our body is no one’s responsibility except our own.
It’s not the easy fix that churches teaches, or the world for that matter. But it is the one that we are called to. Modesty is an active conversation not an archaic one. As men we should engage with it.